Most women I know spend their entire 20’s trying hard not to conceive a child. They think that once they reach their 30’s, they'll be in a sweet spot in their career, gotten married, and then when they're ready, getting pregnant would be easy. I can say from personal experience, these were my thoughts exactly. I thought getting pregnant someday for me was going to be a breeze.
As a child growing up I had dreams of having a large family, with all of it coming together with ease. What I didn’t realize then is how difficult getting pregnant is for many women. We are not all blessed with successful, easy pregnancy stories. Many of us (more than we know) have experienced pain and loss, and have grieved quietly while trying to become a mother and grow a family. For some women, their dream of conceiving on their own never came true – many have needed help with infertility, some have undergone IUI or IVF to obtain pregnancy. Others have chosen not to undergo fertility treatments, but seek out adoption or fostering to adopt as an option. Others have given up entirely, and lost hope all together of having their own family. Whatever their choice has been, I know it’s not been an easy one.
My husband Mike and I are facing this exact decision. We would love to grow our family and have a third child, but we know we will have many challenges ahead of us, depending on which path we take. My pregnancy journey has been painful, and also a blessing. I have two children, Dominik (5) and Oliver (3). But I also have lost three angel babies along the way.
In 2009, I lost a set of twins around 8 weeks. Being my first miscarriage I was confused, and had no idea what happened. I immediately blamed myself for what occurred. I didn’t tell many people of our loss, as it was humiliating and I suffered alone. After a failed natural miscarriage, I had to undergo a painful D&C. Three months later, we were blessed with becoming pregnant with Dominik, who was born in September 2010 via C-Section.